Okay, so... I realize that coming from a guy, this means less, but there are those of us who do find you attractive. Please don't feel wierd about that. Strangely enough, I wouldn't have put you in the fat category. I wouldn't have taken that into consideration if I were pondering your dateability. Its the newest scientific discovery, dateability. Lastly, having a 32 inch waist, means shit. Society teaches some people that that works but I actually believe that the majority of it is fear propoganda, the exact thing you're talking about. Whether or not society's standards for attraction actually affect people and how they see you, we have to think as if they do. Fuck a duck. The tactic is not to make some people feel pretty and some people feel ugly. It makes everyone who gives in feel ugly and those who don't give in are not neccesarily the ones that look the way they "should". I'm not sure anything I'v said has been relevant but I can tell you that having said 32 inch waist means shit when you look into the mirror. You can be happy with what you see regardless of society or your weight. Perhaps I had the upperhand on this as growing up I seemed to have the wrong genitalia (boys don't like boys, I should be a girl) and having got through that, I'v come to the belief that liking what you see in the mirror has far more to do with what you think about yourself before you even look. And you're hot.
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Date: 2003-02-09 11:19 pm (UTC)Strangely enough, I wouldn't have put you in the fat category. I wouldn't have taken that into consideration if I were pondering your dateability. Its the newest scientific discovery, dateability.
Lastly, having a 32 inch waist, means shit. Society teaches some people that that works but I actually believe that the majority of it is fear propoganda, the exact thing you're talking about. Whether or not society's standards for attraction actually affect people and how they see you, we have to think as if they do. Fuck a duck. The tactic is not to make some people feel pretty and some people feel ugly. It makes everyone who gives in feel ugly and those who don't give in are not neccesarily the ones that look the way they "should".
I'm not sure anything I'v said has been relevant but I can tell you that having said 32 inch waist means shit when you look into the mirror. You can be happy with what you see regardless of society or your weight. Perhaps I had the upperhand on this as growing up I seemed to have the wrong genitalia (boys don't like boys, I should be a girl) and having got through that, I'v come to the belief that liking what you see in the mirror has far more to do with what you think about yourself before you even look.
And you're hot.
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