The Logos of Attraction

So, Colin and I have spent some time discussing the logos of being attractive, in the hopes of developing a praxis by which we can better navigate our respective romantic lives. We have come to the conclusion that the problem is one of desire. If one gets too caught in the moment then one can develop expectation and attempt to alter one's behavior in order to elicit result rather than to simply be one's self. The logos of attractiveness, then is to act not to attempt to change another but simply to be one's self. This seems to be the logos of being attractive, to be fully in one's self. This is lost when one acts as if one feels they cannot be complete without the presence of another or cannot be happy without the actions of another.
The praxis of this is more complicated, as are all praxes. In some ways, it's a 'tao that can be named is not the true tao' situation. However, I believe that there are was in which this logos can be praxicized. 1. One must avoid thinking. One way to do this is to attempt to achieve a meditative state in general, to avoid seperating one's self from one's actions. This can allow one to act without thought, thus as one's self. 2. One must acknowledge and eschew expectation. By removing one's self from the moment and understanding the position of a given situation within the greater system of one's life, one can prevent the idea of the idyllic future or of the dystopian past one can avoid acting with expectation. 3. One must realize the ways in which one allows expectation to alter one's behavior and attempt to act without those expectations. One should act openly. If one is merely going to a party to see someone who may be at the party, one should acknowledge that fact and consider one's actions.
This praxis is in process, but I think it may help me feel less crazy about my lack of romantic encounters.