taking a bullet

[drydem]

The idea of taking a bullet for someone is the societally memetic concept of true friendship. The idea is that true friendship is shown by the willingness to be in between someone and a gun. I think that's an interesting concept but not a real test of true friendship. The real test of friendship comes in the form of romance. If a significant other told you to never see a friend again, where would the dice fall. That's the real test, fight or flight, buddy or friend. I mean, I'd take lots of bullets, that's a split second thing. Taking the well considered bullet of relationship strife is the big deal.

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[fallen-scholar.livejournal.com]

Or, as I once said while feeling sagatious, I loved so much that I've been ready to die for the other, but that's not real love. Real love is loving someone so much you want to live for them.

That being said, I'm not sure that I agree. Clearly you're right regarding the bullet - too much is predicated on quick judgements and spontanious reactions in a situation like that. But I'm tempted to claim something like "a friend who makes me choose between my friends isn't a friend." There is a distinction here, I mean, there is the matter of "choose this sort of life or we can't be together," which can be respectible and is theoretically different, even though primarily manifested in the "it's either him or me" business.

[drydem.livejournal.com]

that's more what I was thinking, that the fact that one would choose is bad. A friend is someone who will fight to keep true to both friend and lover in the long term. That's friendship.

[solestria.livejournal.com]

unless it were a situation where the friendship were obviously damaging to me and my so were asking me, for my own sake, to cut it off, that sort of demand would piss the everliving fuck out of me. anyone who wants me to give up a healthy, meaningful friendship, for whatever petty reasons (i'm assuming something like jealousy here), is not someone i want to be with anyway, and they can go to hell before i'd damage my friendships.